#YesAllWomen: "Not All Men" Isn't The Point

I've said before I don't think like everyone else does. I've thought about this over the last couple of days and I'd like to tackle the issue of "not all men", from a particular viewpoint. I'm sure there are many other viewpoints—this is mine.

Whilst the #YesAllWomen tag on Twitter has not—in my perusal of it—gone to the length of saying "all men", I have read many blogs out there, some of which did say "all men". I never liked this lumping everyone together tendancy. 'All men rape', 'all Muslims are terrorists', 'all women are cunts'. But it happens, so that's the reality we're dealing with. Maybe in my lifetime, we'll actually have some progress towards a state of… non-fear for everyone.

Fine. Not all men are the kind of asshole Elliot Roger was. There, it's been said. It was so important that this fact be acknowledged… and I honestly don't see why, beyond, perhaps the dislike of being lumped in with everyone else. But when that isn't even the point, what good has come of acknowledging that?

None, for either side.

So… what is the point?

Not all men will rape us? Not all men will beat us up? Not all men will have problems if we act equal to men? Not all men think women are something you screw on the bed to get the housework done? I think that's great; maybe it's a sign of attitudes changing and maturing.

So… uh… how do I pick that guy out?

Because as far as I've seen, most, if perhaps not all the guys that do do this stuff were completely normal until they lashed out at women.

I'm not judging you, boy on the train. Nor you, gentleman in the McDonald's line. That guy who thought my t-shirt was awesome for standing up against homophobia, not judging you either. I don't know you; how could I judge you? What is there for me to judge?

It doesn't matter if you would or wouldn't. I don't know you, so I'm not going to run the risk.

And when you get mad because I chose to stay safe… you make my choice valid.


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